Our First Anniversary on Paper
Becoming Mrs Bennett
Our first anniversary has come around fast! I still look down at my two gold bands and get little flutters. I always take a little too long to respond when someone calls me Mrs Bennett. I’m still waiting for someone to flirt with me only to be able to say…
Sorry, I’m Married!
But what has the first year of marriage brought? Was it hard? Did it feel any different to living together? It’s going to be different for every couple, but this was our first year. Why it was magical and what got us through those big fights.
The Ultimate Honeymoon
I had always dreamed about being whisked away on honeymoon. More so than actually getting married so for me this was my BIG DAY! The problem was I was still hungover, I hadn’t packed, and I was facing a 12-hour journey across the globe. The bonus was we were travelling to Japan. Our dream honeymoon destination and the hangover would serve me well as I slept for pretty much the whole journey.
I will save outlining the whole holiday for another post as lots of people ask me about it, and I hugely recommend Japan as the ultimate Honeymoon destination.
Waking up in Tokyo was like waking up on a different planet. I’ve never felt safer or more fascinated by a city. Osaka suited our foodie natures perfectly. Kyoto was a breath of fresh air and honestly felt like stepping back in time. Down to Hiroshima … not the most obvious choice for one’s honeymoon! Here we risked our lives eating raw chicken, survived and took a long trek around a nearby island. Then rewarded ourselves by drinking the most delicious Mojitos in the world.
Japan will always be the perfect way to start married life. Yes we had to battle through jet lag and at one point cried our way through a hipster burger but we were also experiencing a new culture together. We were far away from life’s problems and uncertainties, wholly immersed in this beautiful country. If I could click my fingers and be back there on our first anniversary, I most certainly would!
The Big Move
Because we didn’t have enough going on a few weeks before we got married, I interviewed for a position at Jaguar Land Rover. Ridiculously enough they offered me the job. However, this would mean a move from Newcastle upon Tyne to Warwick. This is when you know you’re marrying the right person… Carl knew I was unhappy where I was and that I longed for a new challenge. When I had cold feet, he told me ‘if you don’t try, you’ll always regret it.’ So we did it! 2 weeks after arriving back from our honeymoon we were all packed up and moving down to a new city.
Financially this was probably not my best decision to date, and we couldn’t have done it without the support from Carl’s parents. Becoming landlords, renting a new house in Warwick, not having jobs for a few months and paying off our wedding meant that the first few months were very tricky. Our early arguments were all based around if we had done the right thing, how we were going to cope and missing home. But before we knew it, we were exploring the area, making new friends and relaxing into married life. The thing to remember is life is never going to be easy. We’re always going to push ourselves and try new things but having someone (married or not) to support you is the key. Carl is most definitely the best cheerleader in the world!
Adopting … a Furry Baby
We’ve all heard of the honeymoon baby. Well, our baby came in the form of a very furry miniature dachshund called Maggie Mae.
Adopting Maggie was a bit of a long ordeal. We went to view another dachshund who was only a year old and despite being beautiful was still very hyper and didn’t feel the right fit for us. Luckily I dared to ask the breeder if she had any older girls available, to which she announced…
Well, I had a 5-year-old, but she’s funny looking. You wouldn’t like her!
The next thing I knew the most beautiful little angel came scuttling into the room. Chocolate coloured and with a long Mohawk all the way up her nose. I fell in love instantly and spent the next four months convincing the breeder we would be the perfect “retirement home” for Maggie.
She has been in our little family for six months now, and I adore her. On our first anniversary, I asked Carl what his favourite thing about our first married year was he said .. getting Maggie.
It’s funny how a beautiful little imp can fill up your life. Even Tally, our very unsociable, very particular old lady reluctantly lets Maggie snuggle up to her. Something I never thought I would never see.
Life was amazing. We had concurred the move. We had become fur parents, and for the first time in my life, I felt a ridiculously warm fuzzy feeling in my belly that made me say…
Let’s try for a baby
To put this into context, I was the young girl who always said ‘I will never have kids’ and grimaced when people showed me pictures of their children. We were the couple that purchased a flat proclaiming that we didn’t need a family size house to grow into.
I was also the woman who fell in love with the embryo growing inside me the moment I saw two little pink lines on the pregnancy test. I was scared and unsure, but I knew with every fibre of my being that this baby would change our life for the better.
BB (Baby Bennett) did, of course, change our lives. But not in the way I thought. BB left my world at only 11 weeks, but I’m sure I will love her/him forever. I now have an incredible Alex Monroe bumblebee necklace from my sister to signify this very special little life.
If you would like to know more about my miscarriage and how I am attempting to break the silence about pregnancy loss, please read my blog miscarriage and misconceptions.
1 Year on
Reflecting on the last year, I can now honestly say that I wouldn’t change a thing. Did we attempt too much? Probably. Are we financially better off? Absolutely not. Are we happy? YES! And in life that is the main thing.
Wherever life takes you during your first year, know that if you have married your best friend, you will get through anything together. Carl and I have many arguments, but we don’t let them fester. We get them over and done with and move on.
We’ve got two furry babies and an amazing family that supports us in everything we do and of course… our national trust passes. We honestly couldn’t be luckier.
Thank you, Carl, for saying yes to our move, choosing Maggie together, trying for a baby, putting up with my tantrums and supporting my dreams. You always say that our values are utterly in sync and I couldn’t agree more. I love you.
I also started this blog during our first year of marriage! Whether it was the confidence I gained or the solitude of being away from everything in Warwick I don’t know. But, if you would like to know more about me head over to my about page.